stewing

Well, after stewing on what was said by all parties even though I'm still upset I feel like there was atleast minor overreaction on all parties. I want to continue on with planning the wedding with a little less vim and vigor. A little less seriousness a little more relaxed planning. Because planning a wedding in a stressed out pissed off place, nothing turn out. so I think ill discuss a little more tonight with Quincy my intentions and maybe type out a possible truce email or try and set up a lunch maybe with just his mom and I. I have to remind myself, life's to short for petty shit.

wedding stressss

well after deciding that erikas house would be the perfect location for the wedding, we had it not only promptly and hurtfully shot down, but a huge fight with quincys mom. we hate fighting. and i knew when she came over last night that that was going to be what happened. i understand her anger at my facebook status (which i really need to get a handle on because i tend to say semi-inappropriate things on there...inappropriate might as well be my middle name) but it really wasn't generally directed towards her or kayly. However, the things that kayly has said about me yesterday and in the past were extremely hurtful. i have always considered her a sister and i guess i just didn't think that those kind of mean things could even be said about me. i know i'm not the coolest person in the world but i feel like i'm a genuinely good person. i vote. i give to charities. i'm polite to elderly people. i say please and thank you. and i just never would dream of saying the things she said about me unless it was my arch nemises or someone i really hated. so i guess i dont really see the basis in which she comes off saying the things she did.

anyways, i'm over the fight and we are seriously considering after our long walk at midnight last night with clutch and cloe that maybe a regular family is not for us. our family are dramatic and no one can deny it. my side usually particularly and so i'm pretty shocked that they've been nothing short of amazingly supportive with not one complaint from their mouths, for which i'm entirely grateful. but we have decided that maybe a bahamas wedding. with just us two. is right up our alley. we would have small reception when we got back i suppose but nothing more. we try very hard to keep confrontation, fights, h.s. arguing, and general b.s. out of our lives and so by having a wedding it would be inviting an excess of what we try soooo hard to keep out right through our front door. When we started planning we really didn't think there would be such a problem with having a small wedding. we understand that his side especially that its a large family. but what i really thought was that being decent, truly normal (probably one of the most normal families i've ever met) i thought that they would understand that we would only be inviting part of the family for more than one reason and for no reason that was a personal attack of any sort. AT ALL. we are in the middle of a recession and i know my list was missing a few people which is why we really thought that people would understand if we didn't invite the ENTIRE family.

Anyways. we are considering a sandals wedding which sounds amaaazing, stress free and not to mention about the same cost as our budget originally.

memorial weekend (so far)

Well so far the weekend has been not only semi-productive but fairly relaxing.
We got up kind of late today, but managed to do some chores and then hit the zoo (even tho it was pretty late and we missed some stuff because they close at 5...really 5?...). But we got to see the new tiger exhibit which was pretty schnazzy.
We swung by Coldstone and got some ice cream on the way home, then hung out, i passed out on the couch and later we made dinner and watched Get Smart (which was really cute, even though i heard it was super dumb).
I made the best red skinned potato salad for tomorrows BBQ at my grandmas and 2 fresh strawberry pies (pics to come!)
Hope everyone has a safe memorial day weekend, don't forget to remember the US Men and Women that died fighting for our country.